August 1^st, 2025

Dear Everyone,

I have been trying to write this letter since the beginning of July. But I could not find the words. I went through all the pages of www.cheon-il-guk.org. It helped me to finally put some words down for all of you.

True Father, in the past, and True Mother, today, have always encouraged initiative. Heavenly Parent is the first one to do so. Initiative means to do something that you feel should be done, though no one told you to do so. Initiative permits things that are very needed to be done. And it has to be carried out with diligence and respect for the authorities. Otherwise, it will not work.

I started the Online Matching System (OMS) sitting in my armchair, tired and weak, as I was going through chemotherapy at the time. As a parent, I was thinking a lot about the matching and Blessing of our children and felt that what we had was not adequate. One day, it came into my mind, the expression “A ton of bricks” would be very accurate to describe this. I wrote everything down, how I wanted the application to work, and whom I wanted the application to serve. Then, I communicated with someone whom I knew well and asked him if he would be willing to build this kind of application for me. I also told him that I did not have the money to pay him. He responded the next day: “OK, it is needed.” Three months later, I shared what I was doing with the director of the Blessing and Family Ministry (BFM) in the USA, and I received his approval.

It took a year, but on October 1, 2010, the OMS became live for the whole world to use. Very quickly, via word of mouth, singles started to register. Not many, but enough to catch the attention of our Blessed Family Departments (BFDs), especially in Europe. The OMS was not coming via the “official channels”. Fortunately, the person in charge in Europe and I communicated well, and I help her understand there was nothing to be worried about. I was not about to override their authority in any way. She invited me and even paid for my trip to Europe the following summer. I attended their yearly BFD meetings and met with everyone who was responsible for the matching and Blessing in Europe. I am very grateful to Mrs. Susan Crosthwaite for giving me such an opportunity.

For the past 14 plus years, OMS has served everyone who, sincerely in their heart, wanted to receive the Marriage-Blessing of our True Parents. Programming updates were made as necessary. What did not happen is the push to actually use the system. Because of OMS, I became a Matching Supporter in the USA,

 

and soon after that a Matching Supporter coordinator. I worked very closely with Marjorie Buessing and John Abelseth. They did their very best to support OMS by talking about it when they had a chance.

October 1^st will be the anniversary of the OMS going live for the 1^st time. That was 2010. September 30, 2025, will be the day that the OMS will be available to all the users for the last time.

There are quite a few reasons this is happening at this time. The main reason being that I cannot find successors to the platform. But no matter what the reasons, I, the creator and administrator of OMS for the past 15 years, find the decision sad, but necessary. The decision was made by the board of Cheon Il Guk Incorporated. OMS did help many people throughout the years to be known and therefore to be able to find their heavenly spouse.

Today, there are many other ways for anyone who seeks to find their future spouse to be able to do so. In addition to “Blessing4U”, the BFM, which is the Blessed Family Department in the USA, has a platform that can help too. I really want to encourage everyone to use these platforms if at all possible.

Our 1^st Generation members and Affiliates who seek the Marriage-Blessing are going to be the ones affected the most by the closure of OMS. Since they won’t be able to search on their own, they will have to rely exclusively on dedicated Matching Supporters.

Unless a miracle happens, OMS will no longer be available as of October 1, 2025. A good service, well designed to help everyone (1^st Gen, BCs, Affiliates & Friends) who seeks the Marriage-Blessing from our True Parents, will not be there anymore. It has not been an easy decision, but nevertheless necessary.

Dear Everyone, please continue to be the best that you can be. Prepare yourself well to be a future spouse and a future parent. Trust God but also yourself to find your heavenly spouse. When speaking to someone, do not think of your own needs, think about what you are able to give to the other person. That kind of attitude will create the best couples, always.

May Heavenly Parent always be with you,

With gratitude and love,

Anne-Marie Mylar

ammylar@cheon-il-guk.org

www.cheon-il-guk.org

 

PS: I will remain a Matching Supporter, and keep working with the Blessing Family Ministry doing the other activities that I am currently involved in.

 

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